Lily Collins, daughter of the former Genesis frontman Phil Collins, has spoken publicly about how the divorce of her own parents (and step mother and father) have had long term impact on her mental and physical health. This includes Lily becoming anorexic in her teenage years.
It surprises me how often parents can overlook the impact on their children of the way they deal with their divorce. Children will mask many of their feelings to avoid upsetting a parent, but can regularly recall the communications and behaviours they have witnessed between their parents during divorce and following it which have an impact on their own relationships and physical, emotional and mental health.
Finding a way to divorce with the children's wellbeing as the parent's focus is vitally important for the children and the adults involved, regardless of their ages or how little it appears to be impacting them at the time.
Collaborative Law and Mediation can offer a method to resolve family disputes as amicably as possible, and with focus on the children, which both parents would normally agree is their priority.
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She believes her own battle began due to stress at school and the emotional turmoil when her father divorced Lily's stepmother, his third wife Orianne, in 2008.'There was a terrible disconnect that grew between us,' she later explained. 'Many of my deepest insecurities stem from my issues with my dad.'It brought back memories of Collins' bitter break-up with Lily's mother, his American second wife Jill Tavelman, in 1996, when Lily was seven years old. It was widely reported that the first Jill knew of the 12-year marriage being over was when he told her by fax, although Collins has since denied this.