Since the withdrawal of legal aid in family matters in all but public law and cases where provable domestic violence is a feature, courts and family lawyers are having to deal with litigants in person who cannot afford representation. In this case it appears that the litigant in person could probably have afforded representation but just chose to represent himself. Had he had a sensible lawyer representing him a lot of anguish would have been avoided and, most likely, he might have come out of the whole debacle with a better deal for himself. He would also most certainly not have had to pay his wifes' costs as costs orders are very rarely made in family matters. His behaviour, however, was clearly completely and utterly beyond the pale and thus the costs order was deserved. Advice - get good legal advice and go with it!!